NVC Elevator Speeches…when you only have a few minutes to share NVC- these suggestions are from some NVC trainers as to what they do

Mary Mackenzie (USA) …What do you do?

  • I help people get beyond their self-defeating attitudes and behaviors that keep them from achieving their dreams.
  • I help people achieve greater success, fulfillment and joy in their relationships.
  • I help people to have greater success, clarity and joy in their work.

Dian Killian (USA) …NVC

  • Helps you hear others, and be heard
  • Find win-win solutions, without compromise
  • Get to a "yes" that everyone enjoys
  • Build trust and connection, even in challenging situations
  • Build trust and connection in the relationships that matter most to you

Miki Kashtan (USA) …

  • For NVC in general:
    • NVC is a set of principles and practices that serve as a blueprint for relationships and systems that work for everyone's benefit.
  • For spiritual practitioners:
    • NVC is a practical approach to spirituality that makes it easier to align action with values.
  • For parents:
    • NVC includes a methodology for parenting that results in trust, autonomy, and mutual care for all.
  • For collaboration:
    • NVC is a way for people to collaborate and reach better results without losing efficiency

Doug Dolstadt (USA) …

Here's what I often say when someone asks me some variation of "what are you up to?" I say, You know there are two quotes that have stuck with me through my life. One is the comment by Thoreau where he remarked that, 'Most men live lives of quiet desperation'. That one's always kind of haunted me. I think at least some of that desperation has to do with the gap between what I know is possible and how I am actually living, what I actually do. I've been dispirited more than a few times in living that gap. Not so good.

The 2nd quote is by Einstein who remarked that we can't solve a problem with the same kind of thinking that created the problem to begin with. Well, that's always made a kind of intuitive sense. I've learned something recently that has helped me tremendously in narrowing that gap Thoreau talked about, even in really, really difficult situations. And it also addresses Einstein's remark because it asks me to think differently than I've thought before. And, the more I do this simple thing, the better it gets! You ever get into something and then be pleasantly surprised at how well it turns out? Yeah, well, that's happening pretty consistently for me now. Pretty cool. Oh, and no, it's not religion. That give you a sense of what's catching my attention these days?"

I usually leave it there. If someone asks, and they usually do, what that "something" is I tell them, "I've been studying Nonviolent Communication and its really given me some clear, doable communication tools that have positively affected my emotional well being and led me to understand through experience that there really is a choice that is neither submission nor rebellion - the two choices our culture tends to offer us. That "two choice dilemma" is what Einstein was talking about I think and I'm pretty jazzed about finding a third choice. Any of this making sense?

It's that last piece that leads me right into living the process.

What I want most in an elevator speech is to cast some seeds out that helps someone lean in a bit and get curious. Many has been the time that someone in that elevator has sought me out later to hear more.

Giorgos Tsitsirigos (Greece) What is Nonviolent Communication?

  1. It is an approach and a method that through language can affect our inner world in a way that we can enjoy life and relationships more. It is based on the finding that not only our inner world affects the language we use, but also the opposite is happening. So, we are playing with the way we use words and it seems that this can really change the way we see and experience things.
  2. In my view, our experience in life comes from the interaction between the outer world and our inner world. While the outer world is made of material such as stone, wood, soil, concrete etc, our inner world, or lets say our inner home, is largely made of words, words we have heard and used since our childhood. NVC is a way to use this very material, words, to reform this inner home and to give it more air, space, fun and openness in a way that helps us enjoy our lives and relationships more.

Lisa Gottlieb (USA) that she got from Francois Beausoleil) (Canada)

Q: Oh you do Nonviolent Communication. What's that?

A: it's a highly effective inter-personal operating system for enhancing joy and vitality in life, disguised as a communication protocol.

I smile every time I think of this, since to me it captures an essential component of NVC, while usually sparking curiosity and interest in the person asking.

Verene Nicolas (United Kingdom)

I support people towards a nonviolent and collaborative future.

Carlene Robinson (USA) that she got from Jeff Brown (USA)

"What kind of work do you do?" or "Why are you here today?"

me: "I teach peace making skills." (Jeff's words at a restaurant one time.)

"Really? We can sure use that today. How do you do that?"

me: "I practice Nonviolent Communication and 'teach' it."

"Nonviolent Communication? You must teach in jails and prisons."

me: "yes sometimes I do. But you'd be really surprised at how violent our thinking is in our families, our workplaces, and about ourselves! You know?"

"Wow! I've never thought about how I talk about myself as violent. Do you have a card?"

This is another reason I like 'Nonviolent Communication' as a label because people are mostly curious about it and ask questions. It gets a conversation going every time!


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