“NVC gives people a way of listening so others feel not just heard, but understood.”

- Thomas Gordon, Parent Effectiveness Training

“It would be hard to list all of the kinds of people who can benefit from reading these books, because it’s really any and all of us.”

- Michael Nagler, Is There No Other Way?

“Applying the concepts within these books will guide the reader towards fostering more compassion in the world.”

- Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love

“These dynamic communication techniques transform potential conflicts into peaceful dialogues.”

- John Gray, Ph.D., Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus

“NVC is one of the most useful things you will ever learn.”

- William Ury, Getting to Yes

“NVC provides us with the most effective tools to foster health and relationships.”

- Anthony Robbins, Awaken the Giant Within

“These books are worth their weight in gold.”

- Jan Hunt, The Natural Child

“I believe the principles and techniques in NVC can literally change the world!”

- Jack Canfield, Chicken Soup for the Soul Series

“No matter what issue you’re facing, NVC will set you up to win every time.”

- Deepak Chopra, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success

“NVC gives people a way of listening so others feel not just heard, but understood.”

- Thomas Gordon, Parent Effectiveness Training

How Expansive is Your Emotional Vocabulary?

Feelings and Needs We All Have

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The lists below are used throughout Nonviolent Communication (NVC) training, books and workbooks to help you better express a whole range of emotional states. They can also help you more easily connect to what you need in the moment. This list will help refer to specific emotions, rather than words that are vague or general. Words such as good and bad prevent the listener from connecting easily with what you might actually be feeling.

For example, if we say, "I feel good about that," the word good could mean happy, excited, relieved or any number of other emotions. In turn, in expressing our needs, we can often get tied to mixing up a basic human need like "support" with a strategy used to meet that need like "help with the housework," (as in "I need support," versus "I need you to help with the housework.") Use the list below to practice getting as specific in your expression as possible.

Feelings and Needs


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